Finding yourself on a gossip site like She’s a Homewrecker can be horrifying. Gossip and cheater websites like ShesaHomewrecker.com can wreak havoc on your personal reputation, and more often than not, the posts are full of defamatory content and outright lies.
If you discover a vengeful post targeting you on ShesaHomewrecker.com, you have options. Here is how to remove yourself from She’s a Homewrecker:
- Conduct a thorough search of your name to ensure you locate all damaging content.
- Preserve the evidence by taking screenshots of the defamatory content.
- Contact an experienced internet defamation attorney to review your removal options, including guaranteed removal and arbitration.
- If necessary, you can file a lawsuit to secure a court order to remove the unlawful post.
At Minc Law, we have helped thousands of clients remove over 50,000 pieces of unwanted content. We are familiar with the inner-workings of She’s a Homewrecker and know what it takes to get a post removed from their site.
In this article, we will share what we know about She’s a Homewrecker, the types of content that are typically posted to the site, and how much damage that content can cause. Finally, we will share how you can remove any unwanted content you find on ShesAHomewrecker.com.
The Purpose of ShesAHomeWrecker.com
Put simply, She’saHomewrecker.com, also known as SAHW, is a gossip site where users post content that is typically intended to embarrass or harass someone. The title of the website alone gives away the kinds of content you might find there: allegations of cheating and various forms of libel.
According to SAHW’s Terms of Service, their stated purpose is “to allow…users to exercise their rights under the First Amendment… [and] share…thoughts, views, comments, stories and opinions with the world.”
For better or worse, She’s a Homewrecker is for user-generated content only. This means other people share the content found on the site, and the website owners do not post any content themselves. Because of this, the site is more akin to social media platforms than it is to gossip tabloids like the National Enquirer.
What is ShesAHomeWrecker.com?
If you find yourself on She’s a Homewrecker, you will want to familiarize yourself with the type of site with which you are dealing. To better understand your legal options, you will want to understand how SAHW works.
Here are some key facts to know about ShesAHomeWrecker.com:
- It is a free shaming site that does not fact-check posted content for accuracy;
- The content posted to SAHW is user-generated and not written or posted by ShesAHomeWrecker staff;
- The site commonly used to embarrass and harass others in a public forum;
- The content posted to shaming website can threaten your reputation and upend your life;
- The content will appear in search engine results if someone searches your name.
At this point, you may be wondering if a website like this is even legal. In a word, yes.
The owners of ShesAHomeWrecker.com are not liable for the content posted on their site by third parties (barring a few rare exceptions), but that does not mean that all the content found on SAHW is legal. Defamatory internet content is a violation of most state laws, but it is the person who posted the content (and not the website) that is in the wrong.
At Minc Law, we offer guaranteed removals of content found on She’sAHomewrecker.com and its “sister” site, TheDirty.com.
Defamation Law Fact: A cheater website is a user-generated site where online trolls and users share posts about a person’s infidelity, cheating, or other salacious behavior (like spreading STDs). Most cheater websites allow users to post anonymously or under a pseudonym and fail to take any steps to verify accuracy of the content posted on their site. Unfortunately, these sites are perfectly legal, but the users who post defamatory or false content could be on the wrong side of the law.
What Type of Content Can Be Found on ShesAHomeWrecker.com?
When you first navigate to ShesAHomewrecker.com, you are greeted with the question, “Did you think it would stay a secret?” The question is superimposed over an image of a man holding his phone while a woman lies sleeping in the background. If the website’s URL did not reveal the type of content you may find on the site, the homepage certainly does.
As you scroll through the site, you will find countless pictures of women and men accused of cheating along with colorful titles and mean-spirited captions. If you are looking for someone in particular, the site has made it easy to search for a person by name, location, and gender. You can even upvote content or comment on a particular post.
The posts are designed to shame, embarrass, and expose “homewreckers, “sluts,” and “cheaters.” We place those words in quotes not only because they are examples of the type of offensive names you will find on the site, but also because there is little way to determine whether the allegations are even based in truth.
This brings me to my next point: absolutely no proof is required to post content to She’s a Homewrecker.
What Are the Requirements to Post on ShesAHomeWrecker.com?
Anyone can post content to ShesAHomeWrecker.com. On the top right of the website, there is an icon to click to “submit dirt.” From there a dialog box will prompt the user to enter their name and email. Then, the user can post the name of the individual their content is about as well as their city and state. The perpetrator can add photos, title their post however they please, and share whatever gossip they want to appear under the picture.
Before submitting a post, the user will be prompted to click a checkbox acknowledging they have read SAHW’s Terms of Service. Yet, there is a good chance few people actually read the site’s Terms of Service before posting. If a user visits the website’s Terms of Service page, it states that users can post opinions or things that are factually true and asks that users are “fair and not misleading.” However, there is no real way for She’s a Homewrecker to determine whether the content posted to their site is factual.
On top of SAHW’s lack of fact-checking, they enable users to post content under pseudonyms, so they can remain anonymous. This makes She’s a Homewrecker ripe for defamatory, falsified content because many users do not fear any repercussions for their actions. In an article by the nonpartisan fact tank ‘Pew Research Center, anonymity is identified as “an element…attributed to enabling bad behavior and facilitating ‘uncivil discourse’ in shared online spaces.”
Put succinctly, people are more inclined to post negative and harmful content when their real name is not attached to the post.
Why It is Difficult to Remove a Post on ShesaHomewrecker.com
While it is possible to get a post removed from She’s a Homewrecker, there are some inherent challenges.
The primary challenges in removing content from SAHW are:
- Section 230’s immunity granted to websites for content posted by third-party users;
- ShesAHomeWrecker.com resistance to removing posts;
- Popular posts can get ‘scraped’ and reposted by other shaming sites;
- Any prior communication with the website or the defamer can make removal more challenging.
Below we take a closer look at each of these challenges.
Section 230 Provides Immunity For Websites
First, Section 230 of the Communications Decency Act provides near-blanket immunity for websites for content posted to their site by third parties. This is true for any website that allows users to post content, not just She’s a Homewrecker.
The protections of Section 230 mean you cannot sue SAHW – you can only sue the individual who posted the content. Since SAHW allows users to post content under pseudonyms, it is not always obvious who made the post. If you are dealing with an anonymous poster, you may have to file something known as a John Doe lawsuit to uncover their identity before you can obtain a court order to remove content.
To learn more about this process, make sure you read the section, “How Can Defamation Lawyers Find Those Responsible for Defamatory Posts?” below.
ShesAHomeWrecker.com is Resistant to Removing Posts
Another issue with removing content from SAHW is the website’s resistance to remove posts and their lack of removal guidelines. Beyond that, it is not uncommon for posts to feature celebrities, politicians, and other public figures. For public figures, removing a defamatory online post can be more challenging and costly.
Popular Posts Can Get Scraped By Other Shaming Sites
This brings us to another issue: popular posts on She’s a Homewrecker can spread quickly and get ‘scraped’ (re-posted) to scraper sites. When posts are scraped and posted to multiple websites, it can be more time-consuming and difficult to remove all the negative posts.
Furthermore, if the post is popular and has a lot of traffic, upvotes and comments, removal may be more difficult and in rare circumstances you may need to obtain a court order to remove the content.
Online Harassment Tip: If you find your name on a cheater site, you might be dealing with a jilted ex. Even if your relationship came to an unfortunate end, you do not have to put up with harassing behavior. If someone is harassing you, you may be able to put a stop to the behavior with a carefully written cease and desist letter. Cease and desist letters will put the other party on notice that they must stop their unlawful behavior or else you will take further legal action. Sometimes, an effective cease and desist letter is all it takes to end online harassment.
Prior Communication With the Website
Another challenge associated with removing defamatory online content from shaming websites, like SAHW, occurs if you have previously had negative interactions with the website or its administrators.
Reaching out to a shaming website can actually backfire, resulting in you being “blacklisted” by the website. Ultimately, this means that removal may become more difficult and costly, and may even require you to obtain a court order to remove the content.
It is common for websites to “write people off” instead of complying with a removal request if they are not approached a certain way. To avoid being “blacklisted” by a shaming site or drawing more attention to your matter, we recommend that those posted to sites like She’s a Homewrecker reach out to an experienced internet attorney that:
- Knows how to communicate with the site, and is
- Familiar with the arbitration process.
Why is ShesAHomeWrecker.com’s Lack of Fact-Checking an Issue?
When a website does not fact-check or require proof of its user’s posts, that permits users to post whatever they want. Granted, it would be a bit difficult for SAHW to obtain proof of the allegations posted on their website. The very nature of the site (exposing homewreckers and cheaters) opens the site to all kinds of salacious content.
Users often describe the target of their posts as “sluts,” “trash,” and other colorful names that we would rather not repeat. Most statements found on the site are opinion and thus impossible (or near impossible) to either prove or disprove.
A devastating result of this lack of fact-checking is that it enables anonymous users with bad intentions to publish anything they want and claim it as truth. As you might imagine, the kind of posts and content you will find on SAHW is incredibly damaging – and could easily destroy a person’s life and reputation.
Because SAHW’s Terms of Service state that they are not “truth police” or fact-checkers, contacting them and alleging that the post is a lie will not lead to the post’s removal.
What Are the Issues With ShesAHomeWrecker’s Lack of Clear Removal Guidelines?
Most websites outline their removal guidelines in their Terms of Service, but SAHW’s guidelines can be vague and unclear to the average person. One thing the website does make clear is that they make no promises to remove any content. It is in their sole discretion whether to remove any content posted to their site.
Since removal is within their discretion, it is a highly subjective process. ShesAHomewrecker.com does not provide any examples of content that they will remove or the type of proof one could use to show that a post is false.
What is even more frustrating is that they state they will “comply with…valid/lawful court orders [but that they] can’t promise that [they] will always comply with every order or judgment [they] receive.” So, it is unclear if they will even remove a post that a court considers unlawful. Section 230 of the Communications Decency Act gives them that right.
As discouraging as that sounds, you can still get content removed from SAHW. ShesAHomeWrecker.com asks that anyone requesting removal go through arbitration. Arbitration is a private process where both parties state their case before a neutral arbitrator who acts as judge. Once both parties explain why they believe the content should be removed or remain on the site, the arbitrator will make a decision that is binding on both parties.
ShesAHomeWrecker requires arbitration even if the original author requests that they remove their post. Since they allow anonymous posts, they cannot verify an author’s identity just because they claim to be the original author.
If that sounds a bit confusing, let us illustrate with an example.
Say that you believe your husband is cheating on you with your best friend. In a moment of impulsivity, you post your friend’s picture to SAHW and accuse her of being a homewrecker. Perhaps you later find out that your suspicions were wrong. You reach out to the website asking that they remove your post, explaining that you made an error in judgment. ShesAHomeWrecker will likely decline your request because there is no way for them to be certain that you are the one that actually made the post.
This is the dark side of online speech: it can hurt innocent people and once the post is out there it can be difficult to undo the damage.
What Are ShesAHomeWrecker’s Issues With Falsity on Their Website?
When people can post what they want and remain anonymous, there is little incentive to tell the truth. That is why She’s a Homewrecker and sites like it are hotbeds for defamation.
Defamation occurs when an individual makes a defamatory statement about another to a third party that causes damage to the target of the message. Even content posted to ShesAHomeWrecker that contains some truth typically includes direct attacks on the victim’s character and motives.
A quick scroll through the site will show many posts alleging that another woman is a “gold-digger” or breaks up families in an attempt to get money. This is an allegation that would be nearly impossible for the original author to know whether it is, in fact, true. As you might imagine, revenge websites are often used as weapons during divorces and breakups, when the author is more interested in furthering their own agenda than telling the truth.
She’s a Homewrecker acknowledges that content on the site may contain “rumors, speculation, assumptions, opinions and other unverified information.” In general, the site owners are not concerned with parsing each post for inaccuracies.
The problem with sites that enable the sharing of rumors is that they can rank high in search results, making the unwanted content easy for anyone to find. If you are featured on a site like She’s a Homewrecker, anyone could search your name and find the defamatory content, from family members to co-workers. In some cases, content on shaming sites is the first thing others will find when performing a search.
If you find out that someone has posted your name on a shaming site, you may want to file a defamation lawsuit to uncover the identity of the original poster since they can post under a pseudonym. While you usually do not need to identify the defamer to get the content removed from ShesAHomeWrecker, you may need to if you want to pursue a lawsuit or get re-posted content removed from other websites.
Any time you have to file a lawsuit, the process becomes more time-consuming and costly. If you choose to resolve your matter via the arbitration process, it is often less costly and time-consuming than litigation, and can be done on a flat fee basis. Arbitration is often quicker and more affordable than litigation.
Now, we will take a closer look at some of these options for removing unwanted content from She’s a Homewrecker.
Your Legal Options For Removing Your Name From ShesAHomeWrecker.com
If you want to remove your name from She’s a Homewrecker, you have a few legal options:
- You can monitor and strengthen your online reputation by regularly searching your name.
- If you discover unwanted content, preserve the evidence.
- You can contact an internet defamation law firm about guaranteed removal.
- You can hire an attorney on an hourly basis to advise you on removal alternatives like de-indexing and online reputation management.
- You can file a lawsuit to obtain a court order requiring the defamer to remove the unwanted content.
- If you need to uncover the identity of an anonymous defamer, you will need to file a John Doe lawsuit.
The first step towards protecting your online reputation is to regularly Google yourself and conduct searches of your name on the internet. This way you will promptly discover any damaging content. Ideally, the content that appears on your first page of search results is positive and professional – the type of information you want accessible to the public. Through online reputation management, you can ensure that your best content appears in search results.
If you discover defamatory content in your search results, make sure you take screenshots before moving forward. If you do not retain proof of the content and the original poster deletes it, you may not be able to pursue other legal remedies or recover damages. You will need copies of all defamatory content for an attorney to assist you with removal. By preserving the evidence yourself, you could save your attorney some time, thereby reducing your legal costs.
It is important to remember that you cannot sue the website (or sue Google) for content posted by third parties. To remove content from ShesAHomewrecker.com, it helps to know who posted your image there. As mentioned above, if you have no idea who posted the content, you may want to file a John Doe lawsuit.
If you know who posted the content, one legal option at your disposal is a guaranteed content removal. At Minc Law, we can guarantee removal from certain websites that we deal with on a regular basis, like ShesAHomeWrecker.com. We charge a flat fee for this service and offer a refund for any content that we are unable to remove.
If guaranteed removal is not an option, or is unsuccessful, you can engage an attorney on an hourly basis. Your attorney can help you with SAHW’s arbitration process, giving you the best chances of getting the unwanted content removed.
Finally, you can go to court if all else fails. We recommend getting a court order to remove content as a last resort because it is the most expensive and time-consuming of all your legal options. Further, ShesAHomeWrecker is not obligated to follow court orders (and they say as much in their Terms of Service) so even a valid court order does not guarantee removal.
To obtain a court order, you will need to know exactly who posted the defamatory content. If your defamer used a pseudonym, you will need to file a John Doe lawsuit to uncover their true identity. A John Doe lawsuit is a case filed against an unknown defendant that will enable your attorney to begin the discovery process. During discovery, your attorney can subpoena She’s a Homewrecker for information that could identify the author.
Reputation Management Tip: Online reputations matter in today’s society, especially if you are a business owner. It pays to monitor your online reputation by conducting frequent searches, setting up Google alerts for your or your business’s name, and suppressing unwanted content. With a little proactive reputation management, you can potentially avoid the cost and headache of online defamation.
How Can a Defamation Lawyer Help With SAHW?
If you are dealing with online defamation, an internet defamation attorney can be a much-needed ally. They can help you analyze your options, strategize, and increase your chances of success.
Here are a few of the ways an internet defamation attorney can help with unwanted content on SAHW:
- They can negotiate with the website and third-party arbitrators to get the content removed.
- They can file a John Doe lawsuit in cases where the poster or defamer is anonymous to get your claim filed within the statute of limitations and initiate the discovery process to (hopefully) identify the perpetrator. Once the poster is identified, they can then add them to the lawsuit.
- If a poster’s identity is already known, or once the poster has been identified via the discovery process, they can file or add the poster to a defamation lawsuit to recover monetary damages for any harm done to your reputation.
To learn more about how defamation attorneys can help, check out our article, “5 Benefits of Hiring an Internet Defamation Lawyer.”
How Do Defamation Lawyers Work With Websites to Remove Online Content?
Internet defamation attorneys often have working relationships with shaming websites since they are known for hosting defamatory content. At Minc Law, we regularly communicate with the site administrators at She’s a Homewrecker and know exactly who to contact for a quick response. Since we are used to dealing with the website we tend to get content removed faster than individuals who take the matter into their own hands.
An attorney’s role is also to help clients determine the most effective path for relief and the best way to achieve a client’s goals. We help clients get content removed as efficiently as possible, depending on their particular situation and budget. For instance, some people are not willing to go to court over content found on SAHW. In those cases, we may opt for arbitration.
Every case is different, so we do not always use the same strategy. One thing that we do recommend is that you seek the help of an experienced internet defamation attorney. Your attorney will need to be well-versed in defamation law, content removal, and digital privacy laws.
How Can Defamation Lawyers Find Those Responsible for Defamatory Posts?
A lot of the content posted on ShesAHomeWrecker.com is anonymous or posted under a fake name. Sometimes it is obvious who the defamer is because they reveal other identifying information (“I’m John Smith’s wife and he is a cheater!”). Other times, it can be hard to tell exactly who posted the harmful content.
If you find yourself in this position, you may need to hire an attorney to file a John Doe lawsuit. By filing a complaint against an unnamed defendant, “John Doe,” the court will permit your attorney to use investigative tools to find out who made the post. For instance, your attorney can subpoena She’s a Homewrecker to get the e-mail address the author used when they submitted their post. A subpoena is a court document ordering a defendant or third party to appear in court, testify, or produce evidence and information.
Even if the email address does not reveal the poster’s identity, your attorney can subpoena the e-mail provider for information on the account. A subpoena could reveal information like the account holder’s name or IP address that can be used to narrow down their identity.
How to Prove the Information Provided on ShesAHomeWrecker.com is Incorrect & Harmful
A key component of any defamation case is showing that the statement or content is false and harmful. Falsity and damages are elements that must be proven to prevail on a defamation claim.
The best way to prove the aforementioned elements is by compiling as much evidence as possible. This process includes preserving evidence so that you can present it to a judge or arbitrator even if it is later deleted by the defamer.
Below we look at some of the evidence you will want to compile to bolster your case.
What Evidence Should You Collect When Trying to Remove Content From SAHW?
Before your content is removed from She’s a Homewrecker, you should collect and preserve relevant evidence. By taking the time to collect as much evidence as possible, you may save money down the road if you need to hire an attorney. Your attorney will need this evidence whether they proceed with a guaranteed removal or file a defamation lawsuit.
Here is some of the evidence you will want to collect if your name is posted to ShesAHomewrecker.com:
- The search results page where the negative link appears;
- A screenshot of the post on She’s a Homewrecker;
- Screenshots of any re-posts of the negative content found on scraper sites;
- Keywords that led to the negative search results.
First, take a screenshot of the negative results that appear when you conduct a name search. This may help show how prominent a negative post is or that it has been copied by multiple sites. More prominent and popular posts can establish just how damaging the content is in your life.
From there, you will want to click on the links and take screenshots of the actual content. In this case, you would click on the Google search result for ShesAHomeWrecker.com and screenshot the post. Save the full URL during each step of this process. If the post has been shared on any other sites, save the URL for those sites, and take screenshots of their content as well.
Take note of any key terms you searched to find the content. For instance, if negative content is showing up when I search for “Aaron Minc” and “Minc Law” that could mean the damages affect Aaron’s personal and professional life.
At Minc Law, we are familiar with compiling evidence for content removal. We often think of search terms that victims may not even think to search, increasing their chance for successful removal of all negative content. We also preserve all evidence found on shaming sites on behalf of our clients.
Minc Law Can Help You Remove Defamatory Posts & Images From ShesAHomeWrecker.com
At Minc Law, we have helped over 2,500 clients remove defamatory content from the internet. We understand the emotional distress defamation, extortion, and harassment can cause and know how to fight back.
We also have experience working with She’s a Homewrecker and other cheater websites to remove false and malicious content. Furthermore, we have proven success assisting clients with the arbitration process to remove content from She’s a Homewrecker.
“Mine Law went above and beyond in helping me protect my integrity and professional reputation. Special thanks to Kaelynn and Dan who assisted me during the entire process. They were very thorough and kept me updated on every step taken from the very onset. Kaelynn and Dan’s quick actions were very efficient.”
PK, Jan 15, 2021
If you find yourself posted on SAHW, contact us to find out if you qualify for guaranteed removal. Call us at (216) 373-7706, speak with a Chat Representative, or fill out our online contact form to schedule a free consultation.